Saturday, December 20, 2014

Dreams in Disguise





We all dream. We all have dreams. The ones I’m referring to today aren’t the small, realistic, easily attainable ones. I’m talking about are the massive, life-changing, and almost absolutely OutOfThisWorldWildCrazyImpossible dreams to achieve.

With this, let me now proceed to share with you my thoughts on the subject. 

What if - what. if. - our so called dreams aren’t really dreams, but instead things we convince ourselves we really really reeeeeaaaalllyyyy want, so as to create some sort of goal achievement spirit in ourselves and make our lives a tad more interesting. 

They don’t even have to create this ambitious goal oriented direction in our life, as these “dreams"  also lead us to feel unfulfilled when not achieved.

Either way, they create some sort of conflict in the story that are our lives, some sort of spice.

And maybe what we truly seek is that conflict. You know how we humans have a flare for the dramatic.

Still not getting what I’m trying to say here? It’s simple. In fact, this effect is quite often present in our lives.

For instance, have you ever wanted something because you couldn’t have it? Didn’t the fact that that thing was so hard to get make it even more desirable? 

Or have you ever been in the situation in which you could easily have something, but which you didn’t want? Something that to you was irrelevant, uninteresting, dull, “um, like, whatever, i don’t care”. Then when you suddenly couldn’t have it, BAM -  YOU WANTED IT LIKE THE DEVIL WANTS YOUR SOUL.

Get what I’m saying? The fact that some thing were simply out of your reach or denied to you, led you to believe that not only did you really want them, but that you really had to have them too!


So my question is this: Do we really want what we dream of? Or do we fool ourselves into believing we really want to achieve our dreams because they aren’t easy to achieve. 

Ok, I do know that I might be exaggerating a bit on this one. Just think about it for a second, though. Why do we put ourselves through so much in order to fulfil these "dreams"? Is it because they're worth it and it will make achieving them much more pleasurable? Or is it just because we like to fight for something, no matter what it is. 

Because, in the end.... won't we have new dreams after achieving the first ones? Is anything ever enough? 

Think about it.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Fado Is For Tourists!



   There’s something about riding a taxi in Lisbon that is absolutely unique from any other place in the world. 

   Now, I’m aware that most taxi drivers love to talk with their passengers. I’ve had that experience in every city I’ve lived in or in which I could speak the local language. I once met a very interesting french-canto-mandarin-english speaking, Cambodian cab driver in Macau, with whom I could’ve talked for hours were it not for the short distances in the city. In Paris, the conversations generally start the moment you sit down, the main discussions focusing mainly around the topic  the “embouteillage de merde” (transl.: awful traffic). Then there’s Singapore, the only place in the world where cabdrivers speak highly and proudly of their country and its politicians. And, of course, the conversations in Beijing. I was learning mandarin at the time and thought the idea of practicing the language with a taxi driver was brilliant. I followed the dialogues in my textbook, and before arriving at my destination, I’d had a lovely chat about where we were from, what I was doing there, the best things about the city, and of course, the Beijing weather (read: ghastly suffocating pollution).

   However, the Lisbon cab drivers are by far the most interesting, with their conservative ideals, their eccentric opinions, and their flat out disregard for anyone’s privacy. They love to talk. About everything and anything, whether you want to join the conversation or not. They’ll talk alone, if need be. They’ll propose at least 10 different ways to get to your destination, then change their minds mid-journey. They’ll apologise for yelling at other drivers, only to then get all the road rage off their chest by pointing out the flaws of every other driver on the road. They’ll start by commenting on someone on the street, and when you realize it, they’ve switched the topic to how things were when they lived in Africa during the colonial war. They’ll tell you their entire life story when you’ve simply pointed out ‘great weather we’re having’. They’ll criticise everything and everyone. Especially the weather. 

   A few days ago, I got on a cab that had classical music playing. I didn’t think much of it, I probably wouldn’t even have realised if it hadn’t been brought up. Half way through the journey, the driver turns to me and asks ‘Is the music okay for you, miss?’. That’s where I fell from my daydreaming thoughts back into the moment. The music was absolutely incredible, and combined with a view of marvellous old buildings reflecting the sunlight, I got a feeling of absolute serenity.

   ‘Yes, the music is beautiful’, I answered. He then went on, ‘You see, I turned to this station as soon as I saw you hailing my taxi. I figured a young lady like you would prefer this kind of music.’ 

   I smiled, thinking how odd it was to find someone who enjoyed classical music nowadays and convinced that this was the end of the conversation.

   ‘You see,’ he continued,’ I have a collection of radio channels here for every type of person who enters my cab. See here, this channel’, he changed to an electronic music radio channel,’this one’s for the young people. I don’t like it myself, though. Then you’ve got Fado. Fado’s for tourists, nowadays! They enjoy that. I put it on when they get here, to giv’em the whole being in Portugal experience. For the couples I pick up late at night after dinner, I put on some oldies…. to the suits I offer them the no-music-all-news-and-talk channel”. I laughed as he described all sorts of people through different music styles and I thought ‘Now, wait a minute. Can we really be described as individuals, simply through music genres?’

   We generally employ intangible concepts when describing someone. He or she can be stubborn, easy going, difficult, smart, cheeky, calm, impatient, kind, evil, warm, cold, and so on. Music is also  intangible, though we can easily associate some of the adjectives above to certain rhythms, melodies, musical constructions, genres. Therefore, instead of attributing adjectives to a person, can we merely describe them through music? 

   This short cab ride got me thinking about this whole idea the entire afternoon. As soon as I stepped out of the car, I tried imagining what kind of music I would choose to describe the people I came across with. One of them was a tall, slim lady. She didn’t stand straight, and walked in quite a boyish way, although she was well in her 40’s. She had a weird cartoonish deep voice, speaking slowly and in waves. She was speaking to someone: a doe-eyed woman in her early 30’s, who was a little chubby, awfully feminine and who spoke in a sweet low voice. As I observed them in a musical frame of mind, I found myself facing two completely different genres! If their movements and ways could be translated into a music sheet I know that they’d play out two completely different tunes. While the first woman was a very melancholic opera, the second one was certainly a pop queen. 

   It makes me wonder… if we were all music, what genre would each one of us be? 

   But then again, we all have different ways of seeing the different kinds of music there are! While I saw opera and pop, someone else could’ve seen jazz and reggae. Or blues and folk. Does that mean that each person can be conceived as being several different things, depending on the person describing them? What if we’re all just a medley of different types of music, different genres, different melodies, different rhythms?! 


   I’m getting far too tangled in such a simple thought. I’m going to stop right here, and simply be content with the fact that one day someone saw Classical Music in me. 





Friday, July 25, 2014

Hello there, Friday!


Because there are few things better than starting the day in your car screaming out 

"I say, la, lalala. La la la. La la la la la la. La la".

(Especially when it's Friday and so close to the weekend!)


Monday, July 21, 2014

Found in Links // 22.07.2014






1. We all love them, but unfortunately they're falling out of style, although their impact is huge. 
vote for the return of the thank you notes! Who's with me?


2.  Women tend to apologise a lot. And for no apparent reason. Come on girls, repeat afrer me: Sorry, not sorry.


3. Just because babies swimming are cute.


4. This is brilliant. Someone get me one. 

5. Take a look at these pictures. Some of them are mindblowing.

Monday Mood // 21.07.2014


Thursday, July 10, 2014

Found in Links // 10.07.2014




1. What a creative and cute way to keep travel memento. Especially for a souvenir sucker like me, who loves keeping tickets, museum passes, maps, room keys, local currency, and little souvenirs from places I visit! I must do this next time I go on a trip!  

2. This one made me laugh! You might be facing this right now. If not, it won't be long until you do!

3. Ever imagined how nice it would be to hire your favourite band


4. An illustrator captures the lives of famous people through their belongings.

5. Wouldn't mind being in one of these right now...


Tuesday, July 8, 2014

July Muse: Katharine Hepburn



Fierce, feminine and irresistibly charming Katharine Hepburn.

One of the top ladies of the 40's, she was the perfect model of the Hawksian Woman: a woman  who is witty, smart, up-front, strong, a woman who can easily "beat a man in a verbal conflict", without ever letting go of her feminine charm and sensitivity. 

Independent, outspoken and a free-spirit at heart, Katharine Hepburn was one of the first women wearing trousers, defying social norms and conventions of the time.

At a young age, Hepburn lost the person she adored the most in her life. As she went to his room looking for him, she found him hung with a bed sheet around his neck. For years she adopted his birthday as her own.


Find and fall in deep love with this goddess here:

Bringing Up Baby, by Howard Hawks

The Philadelphia Story, by George Cukor

Stage Door, by Gregory La Cava

The African Queen, by John Huston

Little Women, by George Cukor



Monday, July 7, 2014

Is There Such A Thing As Humane Meat?




Very recently, I've become a  veganish vegetarian. 
"Veganish" due to the fact that most vegetarian options in restaurants, usually have cheese, and since I often go out for lunch, this still is the "better option". Still, I am working in becoming a total vegan.

There are three reasons I chose to change my lifestyle: health, animal welfare & the environment. Which comes first, second third? I can't say, as I consider all three of them equally important.

Naturally, alongside this massive lifestyle change, came an intense research about every thing related to the subject. The more books and articles I read, the more research I found, and the more documentaries I watched, the more convinced I was of my choice. 

The click in my mind came as soon as I became conscious of what really happens behind the bacon on the plate, the meat aisle in the supermarket, the milk in the cereal, and even the makeup on our face... yes, sadly animals can suffer an "accidental" horrific and slow death, when scientists test our makeup on them. Beside the monetary cost of what we buy, there's another cost we should  all consider.

Today I'm sharing the video above, in hopes that it will help illustrate part of the way meat producer's try to hide the reality in their products.

Cheers!



Proud of Being A Multitasker? Think Again.



Are you one of those people who are proud of being able to multi-task? Try Singletasking* in every single aspect of your life for one day, and let's see how far your pride goes.

That's right,  if you live in this day and age, even if you were born and raised in a time where every thing was so much simpler, you are likely to have been infected with the constant zapping syndrom (let's call it that, CZS). 

It seems as though, due to lack of time or to the acknowledgement that time is short, we try to make the most out of every minute in the most absurd way.

Let me start with the simplest things we do everyday, and slowly move to more obvious ways we have a tendency to over multi-task. 

The morning routine boils down to a few thing: waking up, breakfast, getting ready.

Or at least, that's as simple as it should be.

Waking up should be about just that: enjoying the moment of waking up, in which I slowly open my eyes, welcome the day in, hold on to my pillow for a while longer, you know, the essential to get to the point when I'm "minimally " awake". 


Instead, the first thing I do is turn to my bedside table. Half sleepingly grab my phone. Turn off the alarm for the 3rd time. Check my emails. Check my instagram. Check the weather. Turn off the alarm for the 4th time. Let's see what news there is today. Go back to instagram, and check what other people have been doing half way across the globe, while I was sound asleep. Check the weather again, to make sure I didn't misread it, and end up dressing too warm or too cool, for the actual weather. WHY IS THE ALARM RINGING AGAIN! AH. GOT to get up! Oh, wait a minute, my friend in London wrote to me?? Emails again. 

Then comes the moment I most love of the day. And to be honest, to this one I do engage in the whole ritual-ism of it.  b r e a k f a s t .  Cutting the fruit, preparing the milk, choosing the superfoods I'm adding that day, puting everything together into the blender, and finally pouring it into a wine glass (don't know why, but it make me feel good to start the day with something that comes out of a wine glass.)

Ah... the joy. But - wait. Wait a minute. 

Unfortunately, I just realized that is not true. As soon as I've finished preparing my morning smoothie, I quickly go to the living room, turn on the news, turn on my laptop, or walk around... See. Can't single task there, either.

Getting ready, obviously is a whole "same same" situation. Brushing my teeth, while I look for the missing shoe kind of situation.

Getting out of the house, off to work. I drive. Am I multi-tasking here? Apparently not either. Listening to music, singing, talking to someone else, talking to myself (!!), doesn't really make my "driving" experience a single-tasking one. Oh, bummer. 

Cooking and skype, somehow also mingle together for me, I don't know why. So does listening to music, while I run. Or playing sudoku, while I watch a light tv show...

The big multi-tasking disaster, though, happens online. Obviously. 
During the day, how many tabs do you have open at the same time, on average? 

Not only do I have several open tabs, but several open windows, with even more tabs as well!


What was that song on the radio? Oh, cool band. What? They're from Germany? Never been. I wonder how Berlin looks like nowadays? Wow. Great restaurant in Berlin. They have another one in London!?!? Wonder what are the best museums in London. Whoa. Pictures of London during WW2. Hmm.. I wonder if there's any good poems I'd like from this era. I'm hungry, what should I prepare for lunch? Ooh! Can't forget to watch that movie! 

Somehow, this is not right.

This CZS is a new modern-day disease that we're all being infected by. 

Why is it so bad? Because, whether or not you realize it, you're going to end up transferring the spoiled habit of being in touch with so much information at once, and in such a short time, to your offline reality. We're becoming more impatient, more unable to listen to people talk until the end, and ultimately, instead of acquiring solid knowledge in a few subjects, and a strong opinion about many others, we end up learning bits and pieces about all sorts of things, unable to sustain our arguments.

We want things done then and there. We want to see major changes in ourselves and our lifes to happen as quick as a button click to a link. We want things that are not working, to be solved as efficiently as a refresh button. We want to be able to have as many experiences as the ones seen on all those tabs we opened. We want to have lunch with that friend we haven't seen in years, but we also have that photo on instagram that needs tweeking. We want to live the most, and we want it all to come as quickly as possible.... which really takes out a lot of what enjoying life really is. Isn't it about enjoying the moment and taking it all in? Aren't we supposed to go through ups and downs in order to achieve professional success? Isn't it? 

Of course, there are brilliant things about the internet, I'm not trying to say the contrary. How else could I learn to cook quinoa, actually be cooking quinoa, and check up on my family on skype, all at once? (I'm sort of joking, on this one.)

What is crucial here is that we become aware of what is happening, reduce the multi-tasking tendency we all have, and to definitely avoid letting that sort of habit enter your non-internet every-day situations. 

* When I started thinking about this topic, I found this video. The guy explains the situation in a funny, inspiring way, and ends the segment with a challenge:

TABLESS THURSDAY!
("Because there already is a Taco Tuesday!")





Wednesday, July 2, 2014





WOW.



W-O-W.



It's been a loooong time. But for good reasons.

 I've been out and away a lot these past weeks, and I've had lots of things to do. 



Lots of things have happened since my last post. 

TWO major life changes, birthdays, little city escapes, lots of reading and lots of learning. Also, the weather has apparently improved (during most days, let's be honest), and I went to Istanbul for the first time.



Not to shabby, ey?






Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Trip to Porto (Day ONE. Part TWO)


Another thing about Porto (and another reason I simply adore the city) is how it has not only kept the old habits, the old shops, the old buildings, etc, but it has given a modern twist to them as well. 

For instance, this old bookstore, which has been turned into a coffee/tea shop, still selling books, has kept the facade, the signs inside and outside the store and even some of the objects that belonged to the original bookstore.










 Then we found this huge and beautiful shop called A Vida Portuguesa, which sells really old portuguese brands - from soaps, to notebooks, to liquor, to pencils, to shaving creams, to whatever you can think of - while maintaining the original, beautiful and even naive branding and packaging style.

 Their mission is to "create an inventory of brands that survived the passage of time, to highlight the quality of Portuguese manufacture and to showcase Portugal in a surprising light".

These are "products that have been passed down from generation to generation and are still in our hearts today"!













Trip to Porto (Day ONE. Part ONE)

Another weekend, another chance to be a dorky tourist in a city. This time, we hopped on the 8pm train to Porto (also known as Oporto, don't ask why).

We rented a studio apartment for the weekend. Two friends who decided to buy, re-model and rent out a few apartments for tourists. They were super nice, and one of them gave us a lift from the station to our studio. But first, he was kind enough to show us a bit of the city. Naturally, we forgot almost everything he had said the night before and got lost a couple of times... In spite of the extremely acute sense of orientation we both possess. 

Even though we had been to a Rolling Stones concert the night before and woke up super early the next day to work (please read: we were extremely exhausted), we decided to enjoy the night and use that time to start getting acquainted with the city. 

We headed towards the center and, along the way, we found this little street called Rua do Almada, with tiny little shops and bars and cafés. Oh, it was just adorable. We couldn't resist and just had to hop into one and take a look. For some reason, instead of building more floors above, many of these buildings have underground areas, so most bars are in the ground floor and a sort of basement. The one we entered was so cool. It had this retro feel to it and the walls had pick-up lines written on them, perhaps to help those who, after a long week, go in completely uninspired





On Saturday, we headed straight into town. Porto is unbelievably charming during the day. Something about the way the light hits the buildings, how different in colour they are, the people who spend time by their window, watching people walking by...

Then again, the really cute cafés along the way. Like this one, in Rua do Almada:

'I'd rather have wine, than be in bad company.' 












At least two things are a must-try in Porto. 
The famous port wine. And a francesinha, which means "little frenchie". Seeing as I have recently gone vegetarian and that a typical francesinha normally contains a lot of meat, I was sad that I wouldn't be able to try one. 

But, as we walked down the street, this rustic, tavern like restaurant caught my eye. I went to look at the menu and (fireworks!!) - they had a vegetarian francesinha! I have a feeling that I emotionally blackmailed my partner in crime into going inside, but I bet he doesn't regret it one bit. We ended up sharing one and not only was it delicious, but the couple who owned the restaurant were really nice and sweet to us. 

Ah, got to love raw instincts... 






Above: the infamous vegetarian francesinha!

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Found in Links: 27.05.2014





1. In this 5 minute TED Talk, David Brooks discusses the old-age dillema: should you live for your resumé or your eulogy? Worth giving a look, and definitely worth giving a thought.

2. I'm a sucker for old hollywood films and the movie-going traditions that were tied to that era. It's awful to see more and more theatres closing down every year, and - with the changing of our society - the loss of many of the little things that made the experience of going to the cinema an event

3. Amazing photographs of airports seen from above

4. Boys Don't Cry.... or do they


5. And lastly, a tiny bit of humour with Dear Doris Day


Cheers!

And remember: mum's the word.



Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Mid Twenties Crisis

  Last week, I was feeling a bit worried with how little I seem to have accomplished at 23. 

Paul Simon was 23 when he wrote The Sound of Silence.

John Lennon was 27 when he wrote A Day in the Life.

George Harrison, at 25, composed While My Guitar Gently Weeps, and at 26, Something.

Citizen Kane? This classic was directed, written and produced by Orson Welles at 26

Richard Branson founded Virgin at 20.

  I'm not assuming with this list that I'm some sort of a genius, nor that I was born with a natural 'out of this world' talent that must (almost mandatorily) be rewarded, no. 

  Still, I thought it would be nice to know I have the chance or possibility to achieve some success, in spite of the fact that I'm almost half way through my 20s...

  Long story short: In this two-episode essay, I found the little ego boost I was looking for. 


The Long Game Part 1: Why Leonardo DaVinci was no genius from Delve on Vimeo.


The Long Game Part 2: the missing chapter from Delve on Vimeo.

Monday, May 19, 2014

Weekend in Squares ( II )


Weekend in Squares ( I )

  I haven't been in the blogosphere very much lately. With a special visitor in town, I've been trying to keep my hands off technology as much as possible, and focus more on the short-term company I won't have around for much longer.

  Last Sunday we took a stroll around Lisbon and pretended, once again, to be tourists for a day - this time speaking English and all.



Monday, May 5, 2014

Souvenirs of a Tiny Bookshop


Two Saturdays ago, at some point during this rainy gloomy day, we found a charming old bookstore in Chiado. The shop was tiny (the space was the size of a small room) and when we walked inside, only two people were there: the owner and another customer. As we slowly entered, we found a mad universe of books everywhere - from the shelves, to the floor, and even stacks of books in chairs. 

I headed to the end of that little room, where I found a basket with some old postcards. Let me explain why this was my first destination. 

I've always liked postcards. Sending them, receiving them, writing them... Unfortunately, given the generation I was born in, postcards give me a sort of melancholic nostalgia of a tradition I know I will never fully experience. 

Sure, every now and then I might send or receive a postcard in the mail, but it's obviously not the same. Recently, though, I've come to find a deeper interest in other people's postcards. People I have never met, will never meet, and of whom I have no information about. Maybe they're alive, maybe they're dead. Maybe they were abducted by extraterrestrials. What it all comes down to, and what I find fascinating, is that in these postcards I get a glimpse of a story, a piece of someone's life, of what one person had to say to another... (Is this hobby of mine some sort of "new age voyeurism"?, I wonder.)





I was in between a groupie's postcard to a musician and a proud grandmother's postcard to her grand daughter (who had just passed her exams), when the owner of the shop started speaking to us.

As he showed us his collection of Black Magic books, Music books and History books, we talked for ages. 

One of the things we learned about this man, was the fact that he almost married a frenchwoman (apparently an heiress of Perrier water family), but ended up marrying a portuguese woman. His french fiancĂ©e could not leave Paris behind and he could not leave Lisbon. "It's okay. She was more of an aperitif", said the other customer, a 92-year-old book collector. 

As the men continued talking, I found two old 1940s almanacs that ended up coming home with me. Inside each one of them was a world filled with poems, short stories, quotes, articles about absolutely every subject you can imagine, jokes, puzzles and a calendar. 
Take a look: